Mary J. (Carroll) Toomey

May 8, 2022

Mary J. (Carroll) Toomey

Mary J. (Carroll) Toomey – of Woburn, died unexpectedly May 8th, with her daughters by her side, at the age of eighty-four. Beloved wife of the late Richard J. Toomey. Cherished mother of Mary-Eileen D’Angelo, her husband Michael of Wilmington, Sheila R. Toomey of Woburn and the late James A. and Patrick G. Toomey. Treasured grandmother of Samuel, Vanessa, Lauren, and Julia. Dear sister of the late Hugh and Patrick Carroll and the late Eileen Arsenault. A Funeral Mass will be held in St. Mary’s Parish, 155 Washington St., Winchester, Friday, May 13th at 10 a.m. Interment to follow in Woodbrook Cemetery, Woburn. Relatives and friends are invited to calling hours in Lynch-Cantillon Funeral Home, 263 Main Street, Woburn from 4 – 7 p.m. on Thursday, May 12th. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Mary’s memory to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, 70 Walnut St STE 301, Wellesley, MA 02481

 

Mary J. (Carroll) Toomey – passed away, Sunday, May 8th at the Lahey Clinic, with her daughters by her side.  The beloved wife of the late Richard Toomey, she was eighty-four years of age.  

Mary was born in Boston, a daughter of the late Patrick and Julia (O’Shea) Carroll, who were Irish immigrants. Mary was the second oldest of four children, who were all raised and educated in Charlestown.  

On December 27th, 1959, Mary was introduced to the man she would later marry, Richard Toomey.  The following year on Christmas Eve, they were engaged and on May 13th 1961 they married.

They settled in Woburn, where they brought four beautiful children into the world, Mary-Eileen, Jimmy , Patrick and Sheila.  Very sadly Jimmy passed away in 1972 at age four, and sadly then again in 1981, their son Patrick passed away at age eleven from leukemia.  That particular diagnosis  and that very same diagnosis of other children and adults, living in the East Woburn section thrust Mary and Richard into the spotlight.  “The Woburn Toxic Waste Trial”  a book, and also a movie,  “A Civil Action” detailing this sad story. This was one of the first cases, not just in Massachusetts, but across the United States that brought to the surface  the dangers of Environmental Pollution.  Sadly in 1989, Mary’s husband then passed away of cancer.

Mary was a very strong presence at St. Joseph’s Church, all throughout the years until its closing.  Mary loved to sing as she sang in the choir, solo, or a duo for weddings and funerals.  Mary also served as a Eucharistic Minister, in church, visiting the sick at home, or in the hospital.  and teaching CCD there for a good number of years.  Where there was a need, Mary was there to help.

Christmas was Mary’s most favorite time of the year!  Even into her 80’s, Mary’s house was decorated in every nook and cranny, always having the feeling of a Winter Wonderland.  Church, presents, stockings and gifts surrounded her family on this very special day. 

Traveling with her husband were very special times. Ireland, Hawaii, the Bahamas, cruises, all had very fond memories.  Mary and Richie also had a once in a life trip, across the United States in a Winnebago with each of their mothers in tow.   They  had a ball and those memories are life long.

After Richie passed away, the couples group they travelled with, always included Mary .  So her traveling continued and the adventures carried on!   She travelled multiple times on pilgrimages to Medjugorjie and to her parents homeland, Ireland which she held very near and dear to her heart. Faith, family and love, along with her goodness and kindness, was the essence of Mary’s life.

Sadly, Mary was predeceased by her husband Richie and sons, James and Patrick, along with her brothers and sister, Hugh and Patrick Carroll and the late Eileen Arsenault

 Mary was the cherished mother of Mary-Eileen D’Angelo, her husband Michael of Wilmington, Sheila R. Toomey of Woburn, treasured grandmother of Samuel, Vanessa, Lauren, and Julia. 

A Funeral Mass will be held in St. Mary’s Parish, 155 Washington St., Winchester, Friday, May 13th at 10 a.m. Interment to follow in Woodbrook Cemetery, Woburn. Relatives and friends are invited to calling hours in Lynch-Cantillon Funeral Home, 263 Main Street, Woburn from 4 – 7 p.m. on Thursday, May 12th. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Mary’s memory to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, 70 Walnut St STE 301, Wellesley, MA 02481

A Funeral Mass will be held in St. Mary’s Parish, 155 Washington St., Winchester, Friday, May 13th at 10 a.m. Interment to follow in Woodbrook Cemetery, Woburn. Relatives and friends are invited to calling hours in Lynch-Cantillon Funeral Home, 263 Main Street, Woburn from 4 – 7 p.m. on Thursday, May 12th. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Mary’s memory to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, 70 Walnut St STE 301, Wellesley, MA 02481

 

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  1. Dawn M Donlon

    Sheila,

    I am so sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. Every time I drive down Wood St. I look to see if I see you visiting. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Dawn Donlon

  2. Irene M. DeCata

    Mary-Eileen and Sheila I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. She was a wonderful woman. Please accept my sincere apology for not coming to her wake and funeral. Today May 23 I just learned of her passing. We use to see each other in passing and once in a while we would have a conversation.

  3. Matthew Mitrano

    I am so sorry for your loss. She was the most sweetest woman. I will miss her

  4. Mary was a dear friend of my late mother-in-law, Liz Kinton. It was always great to be in her company. She was the most joyful person I ever met. May she Rest In Peace.

  5. Mary Staffiere

    So sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with your families.
    You’ll all miss her but she’s in a better place and at peace.
    DeFeo and Staffiere families.

  6. I was so sorry to hear of Mary’s passing. I knew her from singing together in the choir at St. Joseph in Woburn, and seeing her at St. Mary, Winchester. I always think of her when we, the St. Mary choir sing, “Taste and See” at Mass as it was a favorite hymn of hers. Her devout faith was inspiring and she would say how it saved her during the difficult tribulations she endured. She would say that she knew she’d see James and Patrick in the next life. I’m sure she’s with them in Heaven now. Rest in Peace, Mary.

  7. Kathy Mulrenan Solorzano

    Sheila..Heartfelt Condolences..Your Mom Was A Lovely Lady and Will Be Greatly Missed..

  8. Jean Gibbons Gangi

    Our deepest sympathies from the family of the late Patrick & Evelyn McDonough. May you Rest In Peace, Mary

  9. Will never forget joyful brunch together Sundays at the Toomey home. Her constant positivity and faith was an inspiration to all who knew her.

  10. Robert Mercer

    With all our love to one of the most kindest woman we have known.
    The memories at St. Joseph’s and various family gatherings will always be in our hearts. Love, Robert, Kristin, Nicholas and Andrew Mercer.

  11. Rhiannon mahoney

    I spent a great deal of my childhood at St. Joseph’s. I was in the children’s choir for many years and I attended CCD there as well. Mrs. Toomey was very involved in the children’s choir and many of my memories of St. Joseph’s include her and her daughter Sheila as well. I can honestly say that Mrs. Toomey was one of the sweetest people I have ever come across. She was so patient when dealing with a large group of kids during practices, masses and even trips to Canobie Lake. There were numerous times that she would stay after practice or mass and work with me one on one along with Mrs. Murphy, and help me with a song. My thoughts and prayers are with Mrs. Toomey’s family during this sad and difficult time.

  12. Mary Ellen DeTeso

    I am so very sorry to hear of Mary’s passing. She endured so many heart breaking losses but remained strong in faith and love to all. We were blessed to know this lovely, vibrant and endearing lady. Rest in peace with God.

  13. Bob & Cindy Cassotto

    Our dear friend Mary was an unusual person in that she really and truly was a Saint among us. Given her many family adversities, losing her two young sons and her husband she, somehow, always kept a courageous peaceful demeanor about her. I’d always ask her,” Mary, how do you keep such an upbeat attitude in the face of such sadness?” She’d always respond,” I have faith!” She did and lived it to perfection.To her two daughters we are profoundly sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing. Take solace in knowing your Mom was a Saintly person. She’s kill me for saying that.May God give you the same peace and comfort that your Mom mastered.

  14. Sheila and Family, Sorry for your loss. Sending prayers to all. God Bless her soul.

  15. Suzy and Mark

    To the Toomey Family,

    We are so sorry for your loss. Mary’s bright smile, kindness and sincere friendly disposition will always be remembered in our hearts.

    Suzy Franson Sullivan and Mark Pelletier

  16. Ken & Carol Neergaard

    Our deepest regrets there was no one any finer. She’ll be greatly missed.

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