Barbara A. (Haynes) Paras

April 9, 2015

Barbara A. (Haynes) Paras

BARBARA A. (HAYNES) PARAS – of Woburn, Thursday, April 9th. Beloved wife of the late Arthur H. Paras. Devoted mother of Harry A. Paras and his wife Darlene of Woburn, Florence I. Paras of Sudbury, and Katherine E. Paras of Medford. Dear sister of Eleanor Grondin and her husband Thomas of Danvers, Erwin “Whitey” Haynes and his wife Barbara of Topsfield, Howard “Pete” Haynes of Danvers, and the late Kenneth Haynes. Cherished “Ma” of Arthur Paras. Relatives and friends are kindly invited to a Funeral Service at the Lynch-Cantillon Funeral Home, 263 Main Street, Woburn on Wednesday, April 15th at 12:30 p.m. Interment in Woodbrook Cemetery, Woburn. Calling hours will be held on Tuesday from 4 to 8 p.m. Remembrances may be made in Barbara’s name to the charity of one’s choice.

OBITUARY:

Barbara A. (Haynes) Paras passed away Thursday, April 9th at Epoch Senior Healthcare of Melrose. The beloved wife of the late Arthur H. Paras, she was seventy-six years of age.

Born in 1939, she was the eldest of 5 children born to the late Harold and Esther (Wilson) Haynes. She was raised in Danvers, attended Greater Boston Academy and graduated with the Class of 1957. Barbara chose a career in nursing and earned her diploma at the Atlantic Union College in Lancaster, MA, where she graduated at the top of her class. While a student, she also worked part time as a nurse’s aide at the New England Memorial Hospital in Stoneham, MA. Barbara was a highly talented and ambitious student of nursing and chose to specialize in women’s health. After earning her Bachelor’s degree in nursing, she began work as a full time nurse at the New England Memorial Hospital, where she stayed until 1977. As a labor and delivery nurse, she welcomed countless newborns into the world with loving arms, affectionate care and an extraordinary skill to perform with grace under pressure. She was always joyful and affectionate toward new mothers and comforted and patiently taught them to care for their newborns. In 1977, the second phase of her career began at Melrose Wakefield Hospital in Melrose, MA, where she worked in an even further specialized role as an IV nurse. Her dexterity and patient grace earned her a reputation as the most capable nurse able start an IV in even the most difficult cases, often under the most urgent of circumstances in the ER and the ICU. She was always able to find a vein to administer life-saving medicines to the most fragile patients and maintained her connection to them through diligent attention and a gentle, authentically charming bedside manner. During this phase of her career, she maintained connection to her love of labor and delivery while also working part time as a nurse in the private practice of a gynecologist in Medford.

Barbara met her husband, Arthur Paras and the two married in 1963. As a young couple, they shared their love for Big Band swing music, miniature golf, and basketball. They were devoted, life-long fans of the Boston Celtics. They made their home in Woburn, close to Arthur’s family, and brought three wonderful children into the world. As a family they enjoyed regular visits to relatives out of state on the weekends and during extended vacations in New Jersey and Cape Cod. When the children got older, she was thrilled to become “Ma” to her only grandson, Arthur. She adored him and the two were very close.

Christmas season was always Barbara’s favorite. Every year, the day after Thanksgiving was filled with the happiness of decorating the Christmas tree and writing cards to families and friends, who became used to beginning the holiday season with the arrival of her card before anyone else’s.

Barbara’s colleagues in nursing were among her most cherished friends and companions. In her spare time, she loved to crochet and made blankets for them and her family, which she often gave as gifts during the holiday season. She was always most delighted to crochet small blankets in soft pastel colors to give to new mothers. As soon as she knew a friend or family member was expecting, she joyfully got to work on a “baby blanket”. Barbara also loved to read, was a fan of mystery and police dramas, and enjoyed crossword puzzles.

Barbara was an extraordinary woman, full of love and compassion for her family, friends, and work. She was a woman of great strength and determination, measured by a sweet kindness and gentle demeanor as well as a playful and wry sense of humor. She will be missed by all who had the pleasure of knowing her. During her period of illness in the last days of her life, Barbara yielded herself and vulnerability with great trust and appreciation to the nurses and staff at Epoch Senior Healthcare, which is a stone’s throw from Melrose Wakefield Hospital and New England Memorial hospital. Many of the caregivers and impromptu visitors in her last days were former colleagues and even some people she trained earlier in her career. She was always among friends and took great solace from the familiarity and special care and attention she received from them. She was always filled with gratitude.

In addition to her parents she was predeceased by her husband, Arthur H. Paras who passed away in 1984, and her brother, Kenneth Haynes.

She is lovingly survived by her son, Harry A. Paras and his wife Darlene of Woburn; her daughters, Florence I. Paras of Sudbury, and Katherine E. Paras of Medford; her sister, Eleanor Grondin and her husband Thomas of Danvers; her brothers, Erwin “Whitey” Haynes and his wife Barbara of Topsfield, Howard “Pete” Haynes of Danvers; and her grandson, Arthur Paras.

Relatives and friends are kindly invited to attend a Funeral Service at the Lynch-Cantillon Funeral Home, 263 Main Street, Woburn on Wednesday, April 15th at 12:30 p.m. Interment in Woodbrook Cemetery, Woburn. Calling hours will be held on Tuesday from 4 to 8 p.m. Remembrances may be made in Barbara’s memory to the charity of one’s choice.

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  1. Dear Kathy and the Paras Family,
    Our hearts are with you at the loss of your mom. She was blessed to be surrounded by her children in her final days, and you are blessed to know that she left with such courage. Peace to each of you.
    With love,
    Cynthia & Bob
    formerly of 19 Winter Street

  2. Harry and family,

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. The ones we love are never gone but live within our hearts. May you know peace and comfort.

    God bless,

    The Culhanes

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